Are you doing what you love? You may believe part of work is not being happy in your work. That’s why they call it work, you say. But it is not true at all.

You are supposed to feel vitality and excitement in your work. Because it has meaning and what you do brings good into the world. You are using your special talents to make something that people need. Those are the feelings that you can have.

So if you are not having those feelings, think about your special gifts. What inspires you. Then tell yourself you CAN make money doing what you love. Look into it. You may not start making money right away but, in time, you will.

Your other job will feel much easier if you are secretly working on your dream. You must put yourself in the environment of what you love, where other people are doing similar work, and then take it from there. You will get ideas. You will begin. Stay with it. If you are doing what you love, it won’t feel like working.



Sometimes you may not feel love in your heart but someone else does feel love for you. Don’t run away, engage in that love. Perhaps it will grow. Don’t be negative. Open your heart and soul if you can. Let others love you when you are having trouble loving yourself.

You may be needing some quiet time, time for yourself, where you can come to yourself, and see things once again from there. That is where the love is, where you are yourself and fully present, feeling that you are living the life that you are meant to live. Not feeling uncomfortable.

But while you are uncomfortable, let others love you till you return to yourself. Accept others reaching out and care. Accept their solicitations. Accept that you are loveable. You are.


There will be times that your energy is down, and you don’t have a lot to give others. Let others feed you then. They may be flying high on energy and can infuse you with their enthusiasm and love of life.

Be around creative and successful people. They will raise you up and make you feel full of love. Let others give to you when you are down. And you be there for others when their energy is down and yours is up.

Stay in the connection of bucking each other up and exchanging what it is to make life feel good. Don’t cut off from people when you are down. That is precisely when they have gifts for you.

So be good to yourself and give yourself the gifts of friendships and others who can rally around you just when you need it.


It will make you feel free. Enjoy your meals. We worry about our weight so skip the bread, or the fattening foods that you will pay for, but allow yourself rare foods you love. Oysters. Duck. Quinoa, Artichokes, yogurt with fruit and nuts, something that is a treat for yourself.

It will bring out the child in you, the child who is not interested in denying oneself but is interested in celebration. Be good to yourself and give yourself (mostly) healthy treats. It means you are loving yourself and telling yourself you are worthy of happiness.


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Sometimes just walking and going places you don’t normally go to, participating in the theatre and joys and strivings of other scenes and lives will inspire you.

Just sitting down in the sun, in the middle of your work day, and having a coffee or eating popcorn will fill your soul with what is energetic.

You will see there is beauty (cost free) everywhere and that humanity is striving everywhere.

There are poorer and richer than you. There are younger and older.

If you live in the country, you will encounter new trees, new vistas and the walk will not only get your body moving, but will also let your mind know that there are always possibilities for the new, if we are willing to go even a little bit out of our comfort zone.



Even if it is not perfect, even if not all is as you want it, still being in the presence of someone you love will be healing and softening for you. It will feel alive, full of life. Even if this person does not give you everything you dream about but tries, be with him or her and enjoy the feeling of love and admiration you feel with this person.

Enjoy the hope of connection, enjoy giving to the other. It will keep you in emotional shape. It will keep you flexible, and keep your compassion alive.

It will not make love a tit for tat event, but one where you get the pleasure of wisdom of just enjoying being with another on life’s terms, not your terms.

It will strengthen you and give you self-respect that you are not giving into the child within you who says I want everything NOW, but giving into the adult who can give without immediate recompense.



It can be studying the piano, writing, golfing, taking a history course, philosophy course, language course, whatever it is, open yourself to the new. It will make you feel young and excited.

You will meet people living different lives and that will feel young and exciting.

You will challenge yourself and have to overcome inner blocks and that is young and exciting.

It will make you a more interesting person when you meet other people.

It will open doors to new interests that are offshoots of what you are studying.

If exercise is tonic for the body, learning something new is tonic for the mind and being.

Keep an adventurous and open mind.


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I meant speaking on the phone when it interrupts what you need to be doing for yourself. Don’t let others pull you from your work or responsibilities. Don’t spend all your time checking your phone and not focusing on being here, now.

So many people reach out to distract themselves from their own chaos. You don’t need to engage in that. Of course be there for loved ones, but manage your time so that you have time to work, read, walk, see the world around you.

If you care for yourself in this way, you will feel more alive and in charge of your own life.


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You may rationalize whatever area is not giving you self-respect, and tell yourself it doesn’t matter or it is necessary, or there is no choice. But it will still gnaw at you and make you sharp with others and yourself.

Don’t do this to yourself. Clean up the area were you know you are being shady – flirting where you shouldn’t be, short changing someone in some way, not being totally honest, not facing your finances, or your health.

Write down what is bothering you and study it. You will be breaking through your denial and something inside you will shift toward correction. Clean it up and see how it frees you in your psyche, and how you naturally will feel lighter, have self-respect and new doors will open for you.


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Choose books that lift your spirit, either in their themes or language or in how they inspire you. That speak to those parts of you that are your highest values. If you do so, you will be making yourself younger, in renewed vision, in new thoughts, in being re-righted in areas that might be getting you down.

These new ideas or inspirational lives or guiding thoughts will feed you and replenish your energy and give you hope in areas you do not expect it from. So don’t only read thrillers (well, I can see if you are reading this, you are already a seeker) or magazines, but find work on philosophers, lives that have overcome obstacles or poetry or fables that can give you a lift when you feel weakened. (We all do.) Look to spiritual work for insight and that renewal will transmute into energy and happiness.