Our relationships between each other, between human beings throughout the world, are based on an image which we have built about ourselves or about another. The husband builds an image about the wife and the wife builds an image about the husband. People build the image of pleasure, pain, insult, harassing, domination, jealousy, impatience, and so on.
Relationship means actual contact between two human beings. We cannot understand the depth of it if we are not free of jealousy. Jealousy is terrible and it leaves only rigidity in the lives of two persons, nothing else. So if we really want to understand what images have we built over the years of struggle, first of all, we need to free ourselves of jealousy, and then take a step ahead.
Relationship brings conflict. The reason behind this is that we are not related, our relationship is among the images that we have built. We keep our mind busy in image making and it is difficult to be free of all this happening in our mind.
It would not be right to say that there is no way that we human beings cannot be free of image making. But if we observe what people say to us, whether in anger, or in jealousy, in irritation, or as an insult; if we are completely aware at the moment of it being said, so that whatever emotion being thrown out at us, we see the truth of it and we are free of it.