I know it can sometimes feel delusional but what else can we do? We have to keep trying as much as we can to accomplish our goals and it takes not giving up on our dreams and desires.

You know in your heart if you will accomplish your desires. You will if you put your best efforts toward it. Keep irons in the fire and keep giving your best. Something will come of it.

Don’t keep your mind focused on what is not happening, but keep it focused on what you are doing so that good things will happen. Stick to your knitting and keep your eye on where you want to be. Don’t let a day go by that you are not moving towards that.



We can’t live without it, sadly, but it should not be our reason for being. That said, we do have to deal with the reality of its demands. The way to do that is live by your beliefs.

Some people believe in living as if they have money when they don’t and this is the life that makes them feel best. Some feel much better saving as much as they can. It depends a lot on what you have seen and probably on how you were brought up.

Some people are drawn to luxury and some are not. But whichever way you like to live, pay your bills. Accept gifts. Give gifts. Pay attention to your work. Always be doing something to enhance your income, if you need to.

There is no sin in working a lot if you need to. It is better than being mired in debt. Work at what you love to pay your bills but work hard so you do pay your bills. Give yourself offordable treats and be willing to change if you have to.

Give Yourself Breaks During the Day

Even if it is to buy a face cream or get a coffee, give yourself these treats. Give your mind a break from worries or dealing with the challenges of work.

Take a second for yourself.

Walk if you can.

Have a conversation with someone that is not related to work.

Buy a gift for a child.

Forward something that will make someone laugh.

That keeps a flow of love and excitement running through you. Usually those breaks will have something to do with beauty so they will infuse your cells with a type of flower, so to speak.


Your friends are your gold. They will be a source of solace, joy, and open your mind to new abundances, ways of living and new ways of looking at things.

So nurture those relationships.

Be there for them and let them be there for you.

Keep the river of love owing between you.

Engage in activities together.

Make the time for lunch or a visit.

Accept them. Keep things joyful.

Share with them your victories and losses.

That connection is a connection to life so engage in it and it will keep you feeling full of life and in tune with the sea of humanity.


There’s nothing to be done about it and aging comes with its tendernesses and its own gifts. For example, one has more appreciation for beauty and each other and time feels more precious.

One feels more appreciative of every moment and all those who grace it with you. One has more compassion and understanding of what others go through.

Yes aging comes with health and other diffculties. But it is precious and most of us can still do meaningful work – be it our own or philanthropic.

One can still feel part of everything by staying engaged. So act young, not by wearing a miniskirt or dating someone half your age, but by making sure you take advantage of every way you can to have enthusiasm for life.


So much of life requires this. Patient about meeting your mate and then patient with your mate when you meet him or her. Patient about monies coming in. Patient about bringing your dreams and aspirations to fruition.

Most of us are less versant with patience because of technology. We think everything should move at the pace of our texts and emails but relationships, deals, projects and decisions don’t move at the same speed as devices.

If you are feeling drained and unsettled as you “wait,” know that while you wait, something is working itself out. Other people’s fears, decisions, strategies and efforts. In the end, you will get what you want in the way it is meant to come to fruition.


Are you doing what you love? You may believe part of work is not being happy in your work. That’s why they call it work, you say. But it is not true at all.

You are supposed to feel vitality and excitement in your work. Because it has meaning and what you do brings good into the world. You are using your special talents to make something that people need. Those are the feelings that you can have.

So if you are not having those feelings, think about your special gifts. What inspires you. Then tell yourself you CAN make money doing what you love. Look into it. You may not start making money right away but, in time, you will.

Your other job will feel much easier if you are secretly working on your dream. You must put yourself in the environment of what you love, where other people are doing similar work, and then take it from there. You will get ideas. You will begin. Stay with it. If you are doing what you love, it won’t feel like working.


Sometimes you may not feel love in your heart but someone else does feel love for you. Don’t run away, engage in that love. Perhaps it will grow. Don’t be negative. Open your heart and soul if you can. Let others love you when you are having trouble loving yourself.

You may be needing some quiet time, time for yourself, where you can come to yourself, and see things once again from there. That is where the love is, where you are yourself and fully present, feeling that you are living the life that you are meant to live. Not feeling uncomfortable.

But while you are uncomfortable, let others love you till you return to yourself. Accept others reaching out and care. Accept their solicitations. Accept that you are loveable. You are.


There will be times that your energy is down, and you don’t have a lot to give others. Let others feed you then. They may be flying high on energy and can infuse you with their enthusiasm and love of life.

Be around creative and successful people. They will raise you up and make you feel full of love. Let others give to you when you are down. And you be there for others when their energy is down and yours is up.

Stay in the connection of bucking each other up and exchanging what it is to make life feel good. Don’t cut off from people when you are down. That is precisely when they have gifts for you.

So be good to yourself and give yourself the gifts of friendships and others who can rally around you just when you need it.


It will make you feel free. Enjoy your meals. We worry about our weight so skip the bread, or the fattening foods that you will pay for, but allow yourself rare foods you love. Oysters. Duck. Quinoa, Artichokes, yogurt with fruit and nuts, something that is a treat for yourself.

It will bring out the child in you, the child who is not interested in denying oneself but is interested in celebration. Be good to yourself and give yourself (mostly) healthy treats. It means you are loving yourself and telling yourself you are worthy of happiness.